The Poacher’s Son – Paul Doiron

 

Paul Doiron – The Poacher’s Son – (Mike Bowditch #1) – Maine Game Warden

 

Paul Doiran - The Poacher's SonA while back I saw an ad on a sidebar at Goodreads.com for a book called The Precipice by Paul Doiron. I read that the book was part of a series that features Mike Bowditch who is a Game Warden in Maine. Since I am a big fan of another game warden Joe Pickett who resides out in the great state of Wyoming, I figured that this book would be right up my alley. When I went to Goodreads to find our more about Mike Bowditch, I discovered that The Precipice is the sixth book that features him as the main character. Since the series is not all that new i.e there are less than ten books in the series, I figured that it would be best to go back to the first book and start the series at the beginning and start reading the series with book one, The Poacher’s Son. So that’s what I did and I am glad that I did! The Poachers Son was a great read!

The plot of The Poacher’s Son begins when Mike misses a call from his father, who he hasn’t had contact with for two years. His father leaves a message that he needs Mike’s help! The next morning discovers that a police officer and a business man have been shot in the northern part of Maine, where Mike’s dad lives. His father is the prime suspect and when he was detained for questioning, he attacked the arresting officer and escaped into the woods, after crashing the police car and leaving the officer for dead. Mike is about the only person in the state that believes that his father is innocent and as he sets out to prove it his whole life starts to unravel!

The Poacher’s Son is an award-winning book among the awards it won were;  the Barry Award and the Strand Critics Award for Best First Novel, an Anthony Award, a Macavity Award, and a Thriller Award for Best First Novel, and the Maine Literary Award for “Best Fiction of 2010.”. It was nominated for an Edgar Award, and PopMatters named it to its Best Fiction of 2010 list.

Bottom Line: The Poacher’s Son was an outstanding novel dealing with not only the mystery surrounding the brutal murders, but also with Mike and his father Jack’s relationship. Andre Dubus III says this about the novel….

“With precise and evocative prose, Paul Doiron weaves a riveting tale set deep in the wilderness that can be the tenuous bond between father and son. This is a compelling, moving and utterly impressive debut”

and Nelson DeMille writes:

:The Poacher’s Son is one of the best-written debut novels I’ve read in years. The story has it all – a great plot. a wonderful Maine woods setting, a truly remarkable and believable cast of characters”

I liked everything about this book, the setting,  the main characters and the intricately woven tale of belief in a parent, that you feel guilt over not liking, but yet would do anything to save!! Rating **** plus!

So check it out! As for me I have to check out book #2 in the series The Trespasser!!  Move over Joe Pickett and make room for Mike Bowditch on my bookshelves!

Links for Further Explorations of Paul Doiron and Mike Bowditch

Authors’ Website
Twitter
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Amazon
Goodreads: Paul Doiron
Goodreads: Mike Bowditch

 

Book 31 for 2015 – 17 on a goal of 23 in my Clock and Dagger Reading Challenge!!

Oliver and Granddad Walk Around Paulsboro….

Actually, Oliver Rides and Granddad walks and walks and walks……..

 

So, I pretty much think that when they say that you should walk 3 times a week for thirty minutes a walk,that they don’t mean do it all in one day!!  That’s what I did yesterday as grandson Oliver and I took five, count them, five walks around his Paulsboro neighborhood!

When the day started  Oliver seemed tired, and we made it all the way until about 8:30 before he wanted to go for a walk. My wife and I arrived at 8 by the way! So off, Oliver and I went. The walk lasted about thirty minutes and we visited the dogs both real and statues on Greenwich Ave, along with the house with the elephant statue in the front yard!

After breakfast and some reading etc Oliver appeared increasingly tired. So around 9:45 so we went out again thinking he surely will fall asleep in the stroller this time!! Wrong!! We did get to see the train on this walk though, so that was exciting.

The third walk, which was taken around 12:00,  was another 30 minute plus walk. Oliver finally feel asleep on this walk!. The only problem was, that I was about 10 minutes away from his house when he fell asleep, so by the time we reached home, made our way up to his room and laid him down, he popped right up!! He laid down, then popped up again and apparently that power nap worked wonders, because it got him through lunch and on in to the afternoon!! The fourth walk was a shorter walk, The walk included a street with no sites, specifically chosen for that reason, with hopes that the boredom would lull him to sleep, which it did. Luckily for me and him, he stayed asleep!! The fifth and final walk was taken because I had left the stroller up ater quickly bringing it in the house when a brief rainstorm came just after the end of the sleep induced walk! Once he saw the stroller, when he woke up from his nap, there was no way he was not going on his last walk!!

So here are two of the highlights of our walks
Elephant House

 

This is the house with the elephant statue, that is now right about where the pumpkin is on the right side of the lawn!

Two Dogs

He also loves these two dog statues! Typically when we leave them Oliver is not amused and often screams to go back!! Sometimes I give in and other times I say “let’s go find the elephant!!! What’s that elephant say?”

Needless, to say after all that walking, granddad was just a ;little tuckered out last night, but there’s bad tired and good tired and I bet you can guess which one last night was, eh??

Featured Image: Oliver prepares for a walk – note the family cat Zack in the netted basket in the bottom of the stroller trying to be a stowaway!

Terence Blanchard – Breathless

Terence Blanchard

Terence Blanchard’s – Breathless – leaves me just that way!

 

One of the  albums that has spent considerable time in my music rotation over the last few weeks is Breathless the latest release from Terence Blanchard and the E-Collective. Terence Blanchard’s music career started in the 1980s first touring with Lionel Hampton and then replacing Wynton Marsalis in Art Blakey‘s Jazz Messengers. Since then he has been a prominent force in the jazz community.with 5 career Grammys out of his 13 career Grammy nominations, Terence has released twenty albums since his debut in 1984. Blanchard has probably reached his widest audience through his work as a film composer. His trumpet can be heard on nearly fifty film scores; with more than forty of the films scores were composed by Blanchard. As if all that was not enough to do, since 2000, Blanchard has served as Artistic Director at the Thelonious Monk Institute of Jazz.and in August of 2011, he was named the Artistic Director of the Henry Mancini Institute at the University of Miami Frost School of Music! Some people can do it all!.

Throughout the majority of his career Terence Blanchard has been recognized  as a straight-ahead artist in the hard bop tradition but has recently developed an African-fusion style of playing. i believe that his unique style has been fully developed in Breathless. Back in the 70s one of my favorite jazz albums was Miles DavisBitches Brew, Breathless has captured me the same way that album did, The two tracks I love are “See Me As I Am” and :”Everglades” with the later really reminding me of Miles!

The inspiration for Breathless was the killing of Eric Garner  by New York City police officers.  Blanchard decided to put together an album using Garner’s death as the focus. To help with the album he surrounded himself with some young and hungry talent including:: drummer Oscar Seaton, keyboardist Fabian Almazan, bassist Donald Ramsey, guitarist Charles Altura. The album’s title Breathless was based on Garner’s last words, “I can’t breathe.”

Blanchard explained in a Cuepoint blog:

“That chant has become a very poignant message, creating a very powerful metaphor that explains a lot about how a certain segment of our society feels right now,”  “If you think this is a minority, a small crowd of disgruntled citizens, you have no idea what’s coming down the road. To see the reports that came out of Ferguson, to see a police department deliberately target people in a country that puts ‘the land of the free’ on everything it can print. You know it’s a lie. It feels like every week there’s another YouTube video going viral of police brutality, or civil rights being sent back to the 1800s.

Breathless is my attempt to draw more attention to that. This is our E-Collective version of a protest album, without the firebrand lyrics of Phil Ochs, but in mood and purpose. Much in the same way John Coltrane’s tune ‘Alabama’ captured the immense pain and suffering of a nation as it mourned the death of those four little girls lost in the firebombing of that Birmingham Church. Coltrane’s melody made me cry and made me feel the hurt of an event that happened decades before, when I was too young to understand what the hell was really going on. As well, there’s Jimi Hendrix’s ‘Power of Soul’ as another example. That track holds the cries of that generation who wanted desperately to move away from war, racism and sexism. You can feel Hendrix’s lyric — ‘with the power of soul, anything is possible’ — rippling through Breathless as an undercurrent.” Read more at AXS

You can watch  Terence Blanchard discuss his inspiration for Breathless here

Bottom Line: Terence Blanchard’s Breathless is an amazing album and may well be my favorite jazz album of 2015. The tracks are all consistently interesting with Blanchard’s trumpet setting just the right tone throughout each track! Sometimes the beginning of an album sets the tone for the whole album and with the great Les McCann and Eddie Harris Harris’ “Compared to What” leading off, followed by :”See Me As ‘I Am” and “Everglades” a great tone is set and the high tone and quality doesn’t stop until the closing tracks :”Cosmic Warrior” and “Midnight” So Check t Out!!

P.S. anyone who mentions Phil Ochs is tops in my book!!

Here’s is a live Terence Blanchard and the E-Collective performance of “Everglades”  I know it’s long – just turn down the lights and drift…….

 

Dark Intelligence – Neal Asher

Dark Intelligence – Transformation Book One – Neal Asher

Rating *****

Dark Intelligence - Neal Asher

 

Several weeks ago I picked up Neal Asher’s latest book Dark Intelligence in the library and read these quotes, first on the back cover.

“What has six arms, a large beak, looks lie a pyramid, has more eyes than you’d expect, and talks nonsense? If you don’t know then 1) you should 2) you haven’t been reading Neal Ashers (see point 1)” – Jon Courtenoy Grimwood, author of The Fallen Blade.

and from David Brin on the front cover

“Asher rocks with XXX adrenaline while delivering a vivid future….”

Well, I couldn’t answer the first question and I haven’t read Neal Asher, so I thought I maybe I should and now I’m glad I did. Dark Intelligence is set in Asher’s Polity Universe. Asher has written 14 books other books set in the same universe. So while the book is Transformation Book One, it could be labeled Polity #15.

The Story

Dark Intelligence begins one hundred years after the war between humans and pradors has ended. Theovold Spear died in that war, he was killed along with his fellow soldiers who had been awaiting rescued by the AI Penny Royal. But when Penny Royal arrived she has gone rogue and slaughtered the soldiers instead of saving them. One hundred years later, Theovold Spear has been resurrected and he wants revenge for that massacre! His plan is to commandeer Penny Royal’s abandoned destroyer and use it to destroy the dark intelligence that is Penny Royal.

Meanwhile, Isobel Santomi runs a successful crime syndicate. Like many she wants it all and to get it she goes to Penny Royal for help! She asked Penny for upgrades to her being, only Penny went far beyond what Isobel wanted and now she is slowly transforming into something the is very powerful, very non-human and well flat-out hideous! Something that only wants to rip and kill!!

When Theovold Spear uses Isobel’s hatred of Penny Royal to help him gain control of the destroyer, and then leaves Isobel and her crew stranded in space., well he really pisses off Isobel. Now out Isobel sets out to hunt down both Spear and Penny Royal!! So off they go Spear chasing Penny Royal, and the ever-transforming Isobel chasing Spear and Penny Royal!!! Can Spear  find and destroy Penny Royal before being caught and destroyed by Isobel!!

My Thoughts About – Dark Intelligence

I marvel at authors who can create different universes, populated by strange aliens and Neal Asher does that with the best of them!! This was the first book by Asher that I have read, and while it was confusing at times, mostly because I am unfamiliar with the Polity Universe, I was totally engrossed by the story. I found the transformation of Isobel to be most fascinating and beautifully described! I have already returned to the Polity Universe, as I started to read Prador Moon a few days ago and I already understand some things, like the augs better!!

Bottom Line: If you enjoy worlds were strange aliens like the crab-like Prador battle humans then you will like Dark Intelligence  and the Polity Universe found in  the works of Neal Asher!! One final quote about the work of Neal Asher…..

“Asher has lit up the sky of science fiction like a new sun” – Tanith Lee

I know that he has re-ignited a passion for science fiction in this old guy……so check him out!!…

Book 29 for 2015 – Book 4 of 12 in my Science Fiction Reading Challenge!

 

Lawrence Block “A Walk Among the Tombstones” Plus…

Lawrence Block – Mystery Writer’s Grand Master – Born June 24, 1938

 

Lawrence BlockA few weeks ago when we were visiting with Peter, Missy and Zoe, Missy’s mom was looking for a movie to watch. She said to Peter we don’t want A Walk Among the Tombstones because it wasn’t very good. I commented that the books was really good! She looked at me quizzically and said “there’s book” Yeah, I said by the great Lawrence Block. I bring this up today because today is Lawrence Block’s birthday. Block was born in Buffalo, New York on June 24th in 1938.

A Walk Among the Tombstones features one of the mystery genres best characters, Matt Scudder. From Wikipedia

….Block’s most famous creation, the ever-evolving Matthew Scudder, was introduced in 1976’s The Sins of the Fathers as an alcoholic ex-cop working as an unlicensed private investigator in Hell’s Kitchen. Originally published as paperbacks, the early novels are interchangeable; the second and third entries—In the Midst of Death (1976) and Time to Murder and Create (1977)—were written in the opposite order. 1982’s 8 Million Ways to Die (filmed in 1986 by Hal Ashby, with unpopular results) breaks from that trend, concluding with Scudder introducing himself at an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting.

During the 80s and the early 90s I read many of the Matt Scudder books. Looking at the list of Matt Scudder books I think that A Walk Among the Tombstones was the last one I read!! Hope to Die the 15th Matt Scudder book released in 2001 is on my TBR shelf. Maybe it’s time to get back into the series!! Oh, by the way A Walk among the Tombstones was book 10 in the series.

In addition to the Matt Scudder novels, Lawrence Block wrote several other series. My favorite was The Burglar series that feature the lovable Bernie Rhodenbarr There are eleven books in that series and I have again read many of them. The first book Burglars Can’t Be Choosers is also on my TBR pile! Maybe I’ll flip a coin??

His other series feature Evan Tanner, Chip Harrson and Keller. I think one of the Keller books is buried somewhere among my books! LOL!! Block has also written books using nine different pen names!!

Here is a list of the Edgar Awards that Lawrence Block has won.in addition, Block was named a Grand Master by the Mystery Writers of America in 1994.

Edgar Awards
1978, Best Paperback Original, Time to Murder and Create[5]
1983, Best Novel, Eight Million Ways to Die
1985, Best Short Story, “By Dawn’s Early Light”
1991, Best Short Story, “Answers to Soldier”
1992, Best Novel, A Dance at the Slaughterhouse
Best Short Story, “A Blow For Freedom”
1994, Grand Master Award
Best Short Story, “Keller’s Therapy”
1995, Best Novel, A Long Line of Dead Men
1998, Best Short Story, “Keller On the Spot”
1999, Best Short Story, “Looking for David”[6][7][8]
Shamus Awards[edit]
1982, Best Novel, A Stab in the Dark
1983, Best Novel, Eight Million Ways to Die
1985, Best Short Story, “By the Dawn’s Early Light”
1987, Best Novel, When the Sacred Ginmill Closes
1990, Best Novel, Out on the Cutting Edge
1991, Best Novel, A Ticket to the Boneyard
1992, Best Novel, Dance at the Slaughterhouse
1994, Best Novel, The Devil Knows You’re Dead
Best Short Story, “The Merciful Angel of Death”
1995, Best Novel, A Long Line of Dead Men
2002, Lifetime Achievement Award (“The Eye”)
2009, Best Character Award (“The Hammer”) for Matt Scudder

So if you’ve never read any Lawrence Block you should. Here are some……

Links for the Further Exploration of the Books of Lawrence Block

Website
Facebook
Twitter
Wikipedia
Amazon
Goodreads

Happy Father’s Day – June 21, 2015!

Father’s Day – A Time to Honor and Remember Dad!

 

Good Morning World and how is everybody on this fine June 21, 2015. Today Father’s Day is celebrated in the United States and many countries worldwide. So Happy Day to Father’s Everywhere!. The featured photograph at the top of this post in my dad and me at the Trenton State Fair in 195? My Dad Edward Henry Karn, Jr.was born on June 23rd of 1924. This time of year is when I think about my dad  the most, not only because of Father’s Day and his birthday, but because through my high school and colleges years we spent many hours together in the summer. During those years, my dad ran his own trucking business carrying produce mostly corn and peaches to New York and north Jersey. We also delivered peat moss to various landscaping stores throughout South Jersey. Anyway through those years I was his helper and I’ll tell you we worked hard, but then that’s what he did for most of his life! He passed away at the age of 60. like his father, he died of a heart attack. Both of my first two sons were born before he passed away, but since Nick was only five and Andrew two they never really knew him and that of course makes me sad  I know what it like to have only vague memories of your grandfathers since mine passed when I was two and five years old!! Anyway Happy Father”s Day Dad and by the way…….

…..how did Father’s Day start? Well according to Wikipedia the first Father’s Day, may like Mother’s Day, have been held in West Virginia by Grace Golden Clayton! From Wikipedia:

Grace Golden Clayton may have been inspired by Anna Jarvis’ crusade to establish Mother’s Day; two months prior, Jarvis had held a celebration for her dead mother in Grafton, West Virginia, a town about 15 miles (24 km) away from Fairmont.[citation needed]

After the success obtained by Anna Jarvis with the promotion of Mother’s Day in Grafton, West Virginia, the first observance of a “Father’s Day” was held on July 5, 1908, in Fairmont, West Virginia, in the Williams Memorial Methodist Episcopal Church South, now known as Central United Methodist Church.[1] Grace Golden Clayton was mourning the loss of her father when, on December 1907, the Monongah Mining Disaster in nearby Monongah killed 361 men, 250 of them fathers, leaving around a thousand fatherless children. Clayton suggested her pastor Robert Thomas Webb to honor all those fathers

However the Father’s Day celebration that was held in Spokane, Washington in 1910 was the one that ultimately led to the establishment of the holiday, as we in the US know it……

In 1910, a Father’s Day celebration was held in Spokane, Washington, at the YMCA by Sonora Smart Dodd, who was born in Arkansas.[6] Its first celebration was in the Spokane YMCA on June 19, 1910.[6][7] Her father, the civil war veteran William Jackson Smart, was a single parent who raised his six children there.[6] After hearing a sermon about Jarvis’ Mother’s Day in 1909 at Central Methodist Episcopal Church, she told her pastor that fathers should have a similar holiday honoring them.[6] Although she initially suggested June 5, her father’s birthday, the pastors did not have enough time to prepare their sermons, and the celebration was deferred to the third Sunday of June.[1][8] Several local clergymen accepted the idea, and on 19 June 1910, the first Father’s Day, “sermons honoring fathers were presented throughout the city.

It actually took another 62 years until Father’s Day became a permanent national holiday. Again From Wikipedia:

A bill to accord national recognition of the holiday was introduced in Congress in 1913.[17] In 1916, President Woodrow Wilson went to Spokane to speak in a Father’s Day celebration[18] and wanted to make it official, but Congress resisted, fearing that it would become commercialized.[19] US President Calvin Coolidge recommended in 1924 that the day be observed by the nation, but stopped short of issuing a national proclamation.[18] Two earlier attempts to formally recognize the holiday had been defeated by Congress.[18][20] In 1957, Maine Senator Margaret Chase Smith wrote a proposal accusing Congress of ignoring fathers for 40 years while honoring mothers, thus “[singling] out just one of our two parents”.[20] In 1966, President Lyndon B. Johnson issued the first presidential proclamation honoring fathers, designating the third Sunday in June as Father’s Day.[19] Six years later, the day was made a permanent national holiday when President Richard Nixon signed it into law in 1972. Read More

Father’s Day is celebrated on various days of the year around the world. Russia celebrates Father’s Day on February 23rd and Bulgaria on December 26th. The majority of countries that celebrate Father’s Day do so on the third Sunday in June. The two other dates when the most countries celebrate the Day are March 19th and June 21st!

Today I get to say Happy Father’s Day again to my son Andrew whose son Oliver was born last March and to son Peter for the first time. Peter’s daughter Zoe was born in September of 2014. Happy Father’s Dad to two great Dads!!

The Stranger- Harlan Coben Thrills Us Again!!

The Stranger – Harlan Coben Book 27 of 2015

 

In 2001, Harlan Coben‘s first stand alone thriller Tell No One was released. I read the paperback version in November of 2002, it was terrific and since then I haven’t missed one of his thrillers! There are few authors, who can take an ordinary person, and turn their world upside-down like Harlan Coben. He does just that in his latest thriller The Stranger.

Adam Price is living the American dream in his wife’s hometown of Cedarfield, NJ (While locales in Coben’s books are typically real, Cedarfield is a fictional town!). . He is a successful attorney with a beautiful wife,Corrine a school teacher. They have two great boys, Ryan and Thomas, who both play lacrosse, while mom serves as the treasurer of the local lacrosse organization. But on the night of the draft and the selection of the traveling team, Adam’s life starts to spiral out of control, when a Stranger approaches him and reveals a startling secret. Two years earlier Corrine had faked a pregnancy! The Stranger tells him “You know you didn’t have to stay with her” Adam eventually confronts Corrine who suddenly leaves her husband and kids telling Adam not to search for her, she needs time to sort everything out! Yeah, like that’s going to happen!! Soon Adam is on a quest to find his wife and put the pieces of his shattered life back together again!!

Adam has all sorts of questions to answer. How did the Stranger know about the pregnancy and why did he tell Adam? And why did Corrine fake the pregnancy in the first place?? And most of all where the hell did she go?? Why did she leave  him, but most importantly how could she leave her boys!!

Harlan Coben’s descriptions of life in the burbs, especially how it is among those whose children compete on traveling soccer or lacrosse teams is spot on. And while there is a certain sameness to his books, a fairly simple incident thrust someone into a life changing situation, he still makes each book exciting and interesting, No one twists and turns his way through a book like Harlan Coben and in The Stranger he certainly does that! Here’s what some others have to say about The Stranger.

 ‘With clever use of technology, convincing characters and a strong emotional heart, you’re effortlessly swept along to a tense and dramatic conclusion. Smart stuff from a classy operator.’ — Deirdre O’Brien SUNDAY MIRROR

The master of the twisty psychological thriller is back with another awesomely gripping mystery.’ — Boyd Tonkin HEAT

‘The twists come satisfyingly thick and fast as the plots merge before the tangled web of evens unravels into an enjoyable and somewhat surprising conclusion.’ SUNDAY EXPRESS

So check out The Stranger or any other book by Harlan Coben! You won’t be disappointed!!

Links for Further Explorations of the Works of Harlan Coben

Harlan Coben’s Website
Wikipedia:Harlan Coben
Goodreads
Amazon
Review at NJ.com

P.S. I particularly enjoyed the cameo appearance of an unnamed participant in Adam’s basketball game!!

Mid – June Reading Challenges Update!

Well we’ve just past the middle of June, so it’s time to check how I’m doing on my Reading Challenges.So far this month I have finished three books. I was only planning on reading one of them this month!

June 2015 Reads
28 Dark Intelligence – Neal Asher Science Fiction Library
27 The Stranger – Harlan Coben Cloak & Dagger Library
26 The Martian – Andy Weir Science Fiction Ebook

 

The books that I was reading at the end of May and planning to finish in June are listed on the table below. As you can see only Dark Intelligence is the only one that I was reading!!  I found Harlan Coben’s latest The Stranger  at the library when I was picking up a book for my daughter and couldn’t pass it up, I figured correctly that it would be a fast read!. The Martian is an ebook that I had requested from the library a long time ago, that became unexpectedly available!! So after finishing the above books, I have to get back into the other four books that I am still reading and see if I can finish them before the end of the month!! I will be posting my reviews of Dark Intelligence and The Stranger shortly! They were both great reads!

Currently Reading at the End of May Challenge From
Dark Intelligence – Neal Asher Science Fiction Library
Wages of Rebellion –Chris Hedges Nonfiction Library
 How to Read the Solar System Nonfiction Library
Who Buries the Dead – C.S. Harris Cloak & Dagger Library
The Matarese CountdownRobert Ludlum Cloak & Dagger TBR Pile

 

The table below shows where I stand on my reading challenges. Ideally, at the end of this month I would be above 50% on all my challenges and I’m pretty close to that. Right now I am above 50% on two of the challenges and the overall total of books I planned to read! Considering that I am at 29 books at the middle of June and only read 34 all of 2014, I guess I’m not doing too badly!! I am really enjoying the Science Fiction Challenge and will be reading more books in that genre as 2015 continues!! Neal Asher and James C Corey here I come!! Oh my, I just bought Prador Moon the first of the Neal Asher Polity Books!! That does not bode well for completion of maybe one of the books I am currently reading!! Oh well! Too many books, too little time!!

From TBR Pile Buy/Library Total Goal %complete
2015 Nonfiction Reading Challenge 0 4 4 11 36%
2015 Cloak & Dagger Reading Challenge 6 10 16 23 70%
2015 Historical Fiction Reading Challenge 1 1 2 5 40%
2015 Science Fiction/Fantasy Challenge 2 4 6 12 50%
No Reading Challenge 0 1 1 0 100%
Totals 9 19 29 51 57%
2015 TBR Pile reading challenge 9 25 36%

It is Really All About Your Kids!

[Flashback Post – Originally written in 2014]
I came across this one from my early blogging days, and I still believe every word. Back then, all four kids were finding their footing, and we were learning what “letting go” really means as parents. A decade later, not much has changed — the love, the worry, and the joy of helping them (and now their kids) are still part of everyday life.


As a Parent, You Want to Take Care of Them and their Kids Forever!

 

Several years ago, we were in Virginia either taking my daughter Elizabeth to school or visiting. Either way we were driving down the main drag in Williamsburg when we received a phone call from the home were my mother was living. The home was requesting my permission to take away her phone, Mom suffered from Parkinson’s disease and the medication she was taking often left her with very real delusions. These delusions often resulted in her thinking that people came in buses to take residents from the home to Ohio, She luckily had not been among those chosen to be removed! Other delusions included a fear of being arrested because one of the nurses hid cocaine in her stuffed monkey.

At the time of the phone call, she believed that one of the male residents was out to kill her and that night she had called 911 because he was in her room!! Needless to say, there was no man, but the home still had to call me to get permission to take her phone to avoid any repeats of the mess she created

Sometime after that incident mom wasn’t taking her medicine and things were getting worse. We decided that what we would do was to tell her we weren’t coming anymore until see took her medicine.

When we called my cousin to tell her that was what we were doing, she went off on my wife saying that we didn’t care, and that everything was about our kids!

Finally she told my wife we had to stop doing for them because they were grownups and we had to let them go!” Now I will say that my cousin was always great with my mom, but she was wrong about needing to let go of our kids. As a parent that is impossible! They are your kids, they come first, and they always will!

Since then my oldest son his moved out and lives by himself in Mount Laurel. My two middle sons have married and both have made us grandparents and my daughter has lived on here own in Delaware while attending graduate school at the University of Delaware. So they are all on their own and doing fine, But guess what they are still “our kids” and we still have to do for them, in a good way!

Obviously, one way is the babysitting I do for my grandchildren, I love it and I know it help them out!! Last Saturday was a great day and a perfect example of  how you need to help out!!  

The morning started with me taking my daughter to a training session for her summer job. The training was being held in a school about 30 minutes away. I took her because a friend was picking her up they were going to a concert in Philly in the afternoon., After the concert  they come back to our house, Where by the way, they were both going to get to see Miss Zoe!!

In the afternoon, I took my oldest son out car shopping, His 2001 Hyundai Elantra which has been in the family forever is on its last legs .We had gone out earlier in the week, saw some possible used cars but the deals weren’t right. But Saturday evening, we found a good deal and he bought a new car, yeah!! See I hate car shopping, but you have to do what you have to do!!

Saturday ended nicely when Peter and Missy brought baby Zoe over, so that we all got to see her! Peter and Missy had been out shopping and stopped first at the car dealership to check out the car and then came to the house!

The only way the day could have been better is if we had been able to see Andrew. Meaghan and Oliver, too. Because you see it IS all about “our kids” and now :”their kids” are added into the mix and that’s the way that I think it’s supposed to be!!

Featured Picture: Zoe’s biggest smiles came, when she was on her daddy’s shoulders!

[2025 reflection] Reading this now, I realize how much those days shaped what life looks like today. The kids are grown, the grandkids are thriving, and somehow, it still feels like the same circle — just wider and richer.

The Martian – Andy Weir

The Martian – Andy Weir – Book 27 of 2015 No 4 of Science Fiction Reading Challenge

 

One of my resolutions for 2015 was to read more science fiction. It is a genre that I have read and loved in the past  I have read the classics by authors like Frank Herbert, Arthur C Clarke and Robert Heinlein along with authors like David Brin and Orson Scott Card, but  through the years that amount of SciFi that I read dwindles down to almost nothing. I say almost because I have read several boos by John Scalzi. Anyway, back at the beginning of the year I went looking for new science fiction to read and one book that kept appearing on several of the list of the Best Science Fiction was The Martian Andy Weir’s. The Martian became the 27th book I’ve read in 2015, and the fourth in the science fiction genre. Now I know what everyone has been raving about! The Martian is a terrific read!. It is by far my favorite SciFi read of the year and up there among my favorite overall reads!  My current SciFi read Dark Intelligence by Neal Asher is a close second!

For those of you who like me know little about The Martian, it is a Robinson Crusoe, Tom Hawks Cast Way type tale set on Mars. The Cast Away is Engineer Botanist Mark Watney  who is part of the third manned mission to Mars. After touchdown and setting up their base a violent sandstorm hits the base. The mission is canceled and the astronauts are ordered to leave the planet. As they are making their way to the shuttle craft, Mark is swept away by a 170 km/hr gust of wind and lost. The crew is unable to find him and he is assumed to be dead and buried. The crew reluctantly leave Mars. Only Mark IS alive and here’s what he thinks about his chances of surviving. From the opening paragraphs of The Martian.…..

chapter 1 - The Martian

When I started the book I didn’t;t think that Weir could make Watney’s tale of survival on Mars as compelling and interesting as he did. Watney would have to survive almost 4 years until the return of another manned Mars mission! He faced challenges like getting food to grow on a barren planet and making water without blowing himself up!  He battled everything the planet could trow at him with humor, ingenuity, duct tape, 70s disco music and TV shows!!

Some of my favorite lines from the book include……

“Yes, of course duct tape works in a near-vacuum. Duct tape works anywhere. Duct tape is magic and should be worshiped.”

“Actually, I was the very lowest ranked member of the crew. I would only be “in command” if I were the only remaining person.”
What do you know? I’m in command”

And as a Granddad I love this one…

“I can’t wait till I have grandchildren. When I was younger, I had to walk to the rim of a crater. Uphill! In an EVA suit! On Mars, ya little shit! Ya hear me? Mars!”

Bottom Line Rating ***** The Martian is everything that everyone says that it is, a compelling and suspenseful story of survival against incredible odds! One of the themes of the book is the question of whether it wise to save one person at an astronomical cost or to put more lives at risk for one man!

A movie based on the book is set for release in November with Matt Damon starring as Mark Watney, so hurry and go out and read the book. So that, when you see the movie you can say that the movie was good, but the book was better!! You can check out information about the movie here

Links for Further Exploration of The Martian and Andy Weir

Author”s Website
Goodreads: The Martian
Goodreads: Andy Weir